And while something inside her is telling her it's the right thing to do, something inside the guy is telling him just the opposite, yet he proceeds. For the physical pleasure no doubt, but also, I think, for another reason: it makes him feel like a man.
But there is a great irony in that, for what is manly about deceiving a woman?
Here's what I mean: most of the girls I've been with are now married to other men.
When I put myself in the shoes of those men, I wish that I hadn't done what I've done. Would I want some guy like me taking advantage of her? They're someone else's future wife, someone else's daughter, sister, etc.
And the guy -- who doesn't treasure his wife because of the sex before marriage -- still wants sex but not as a total bonding experience with his wife. And consequently they'll have better and more frequent sex because they respect each other more and love each other more deeply.
Sex is a mysterious thing that causes a deep bond between people, even if we call it "casual." The problem is this: the more I bond with other girls, the less I'll be able to bond with my future wife.
The two things were this: 1) I lost respect for the girl (even though I didn't want to); and 2) she began to mistrust me (even though she didn't want to).
One thing I've learned: if a girl doesn't trust a guy, she doesn't want to give herself wholly to him.That's something you won't see on TV or in the movies, but it happens a lot. The "love hangover" was a strange occurrence for me.Mainly because when I was in college, sex was my "god." As a male, it's what I thought about morning, noon and night. If you have, you should stop and consider, "Why is that?As a result, the relationship as a whole started to go south.We might still be together today if we (I) had waited.