There are so many damn people you would think it’d be easier, but it’s not. What makes New York equally amazing and horrible for dating is the sheer number of options. Some people are dating purely for the stories, whether they know it or not. In New York, Tinder is so accepted as a means of meeting that elusive attractive individual who lives three blocks from you and ALSO loves hamentashen, you might not even lie to your grandparents about it. There’s a ton of awesome stuff to do in the city, and since you probably have an awesome and more chill time doing it with your established friends, you’re not likely to risk doing anything "fun" on your list with a potentially lame stranger. If the date goes badly, inevitably you end up doing something super awkward like saying goodbye and then walking to the train in the same direction and slowly trying to fall back.Looking at the percentage of members in the US who say they’d be willing to consider an open relationship, an unsurprising pattern is uncovered: Members in the central and southern parts of the country, which tend to be more conservative, are less likely to be open to open relationships.Yet for women, they’re also fairly unpopular in liberal states on the East Coast, like New Hampshire (10%) and Connecticut (11%).Or because you really want that summer share in the Hamptons. Maybe you’re a traditionalist and you still believe you can meet someone in Central Park... This can be why most New Yorkers don’t want to commit, because they know that there will always be someone else, theoretically better, right around the corner.
And you have to figure out how to get yourself there. Does waiting at the bar with a drink make you look totally chill, or like a raging alcoholic?If New York is the worst city for messaging, then Portland is the best.Here, men reply to half of all messages, and women reply to 20% (the highest female reply rate across Ok Cupid’s top cities, tied with Salt Lake City).While New York may be the most difficult place to get a message, it’s got some upsides —daters don’t ghost here as much as they do in other cities.It turns out that every city has its own idiosyncratic dating culture, and in this , we’ll take a look at what those cultures are.