And look on the bright side: This can be a time of experimentation and freedom with sex that you didn't have when young kids were underfoot."Introduce a vibrator, experiment with self-stimulation, try new positions," suggests Mc Grath. Truth: This one persists for good reason—it makes sense that you'd be more worn-out now than you were 20 years ago.So if you have little or no desire for any kind of sex—even with George Clooney in your fantasies—see your doctor to be sure you don't have a medical condition, such as thyroid issues or certain cancers, says Dr. Beyond that, libido has a lot to do with how easily you can talk to your partner, and how bothered either of you is by how often you have sex.For one couple, once a month feels fine, whereas for others three times a week is practically nothing.
Ask any guy: If the woman who shares his bed gets naked, he's not seeing a muffin top and cellulite.Forty may be the new 30, but considering the misconceptions about women's sexuality and desirability after a "certain age," you'd think 40 was the new 80!Whether you blame advertising portrayals of what's "sexy" (Victoria's Secret models, anyone?Any dating couple — whether they’re next-door neighbors or international heartthrobs — should intimacy.The great prize in marriage is Christ-centered intimacy; the great prize in dating is Christ-centered clarity.