Elder dallin h oaks dating versus hanging out

I’d like to share some lessons I’ve learned in my practice, from loved ones who’ve been divorced or widowed, from singles I interact with at classes and firesides, and from my own life.

Although different people in different circumstances require different counsel, I have found three key principles which, if applied, will help LDS singles to date well and thrive on their own in the meantime: without her.

I read, with great interest, Erin Ann Mc Bride’s report on a survey of LDS single adults earlier this week.My life, I thought, couldn’t truly start until she was in it.This is, of course, a self-defeating interpretation of the doctrine that “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis ) and “neither is the man without the woman, nor the woman without the man in the Lord” (1 Corinthians ). I can certainly attest to the truthfulness of this doctrine.It was only when I was at peace with being single that I was truly ready to get married.2.Be the type of person you want to attract- I once had a client in my office for therapy (I share this story with his permission) who told me that he’d probably never marry because his standards were too high.